Dating S.O.S

It is astonishing what a little “change of mind” can do to one’s motivation and endurance. Some people reach this goal by positive thinking, affirmations or even meditation. I came to think differently by chance.

I have never been immune to the common problem of going to the gym twice, only to give up on a regular routine before the week is over. I have always known it was in part due to the fact that the gym bores me to tears. Aside from the fact that treadmills, and some other cardio equipment, makes me feel like a lab rat. Being outside, or at least on an indoor track, provides me with the visual stimulation that keeps me from becoming repulsed by the activity itself.

This however has nothing to do with my change in perspective. Although I have given up on a exercise routine countless times before (the same way I never managed to stop biting my nails), I have reached a turning point. Not because exercise is so much more fun than it was before - there is only a little bit of that - but rather because I perceive it as a treat instead of a chore.

How can this be?

It’s simple: in my highly articulated, chronically social life where I am at all times surrounded by people I crave some time alone. I in fact get tired of my social obligations, and of family obligations to the point where I am irritable and almost resentful. The past week, these feelings have subsided a little bit already, because I manage to be just alone with my thoughts and my music for a little while.

Running now represents this fantastic time alone to me, instead of the chore it was previously. Who can be expected to keep up with yet another “chore” or “responsibility” on top of every other annoying thing we are expected to do during the day? It is far easier to stick to a routine if it is in fact a selfish act.

At this point, I wouldn’t even want to train with another person. It would be nice to have a friend to share this interest with, but at the same time it would take away the reason I am going to keep up with it.

My tip for the day is to try and think of things differently. Whether it is regarding exercise, food or even a career: approach things a little more selfishly, and do make some time for yourself. Once you change your perspective on, for example exercise, and turn it into something positive it will actually be surprisingly easy to stick to your goals. I find the Nike slogan terribly appropriate in this case: just do it!

Having said all that, I’m going for my run!