Dating S.O.S

I can’t help but wonder whether people who are prone to cheating on their partners perhaps have a little bit of a split-personality disorder. Perhaps with a side of bi-polar, people go through life never quite finding what they want. Yet, being very happy with elements of what they do find in their partners.

Are we ultimate perfectionists if we do not find the right person to marry? Or simply out of luck? Does that same perfectionism become our own downfall when we stray for the straight and perfect path into a life of adultery when our partner does not live up to expectations?

Perhaps.

I can’t help but wonder again whether some cheating can’t be healthy. After all: all those perfectionists have to be put in their place sometime and hit their nose on reality. Nothing is perfect, and how better to teach us than that wildly inappropriate partner we accidentally fell into bed with one night, while the wife or husband was home doing the dishes?

I spoke to a man yesterday who is certainly not cheating: the second sentence coming out of his mouth involved the words “my fiance and I”. People who include their significant other in a conversation usually do not intend to cheat; they are not hiding their relationship. Anyhow, the secret to this man’s relationship success was his breakup a few years ago. His (now) fiance and him decided to call it quits on the relationship, but stay good friends. They dated other people for six months, became wildly disappointed with the offerings on the singles market and decided they weren’t so bad for each other after all. Sometimes a separation is not possible, should one really rule out an affair? It’s tricky, but in some cases the affair can be the best thing you could ever do for the relationship. For some people, polyamory does actually work to bring the original couple closer together.